With all the romantic market dates to be had and Christmas parties to attend, it’s a wonderful time of the year for many singles to meet new people.
But whilst it might feel like a fairytale to fall in love at Christmas, once the magic of the holidays has worn off, so might the romance.
This dating phenomenon is so common that it’s been given its own name – ‘snow-globing’.
We spoke to Match’s dating expert Hayley Quinn to find out what snow-globing is, and how to avoid falling into the trap.
‘Snow globing’ occurs when your date uses the festive season to make you think your relationship is more serious – and more committed – than it actually is.
This can be particularly confusing, especially if your date gives you a romantic Christmas gift, talks about plans for the New Year, and you are physically intimate.
However, Hayley urges people not to assume you’re instantly in a relationship, particularly if that person has told you that they’re unsure of what they want.
Most people believe you need to have an explicit conversation about commitment before you’re officially an item.
So, have an open conversation with your date instead – a good workaround for avoiding the awkward ‘so what are we’ style chats can be to talk about what you want specifically.
Try saying, ‘this is starting to feel like a relationship to me, so it wouldn’t feel right for me to meet other people. I wanted to check in and see where you stand, rather than assume anything.’
Research by Match shows that over half of singles have experienced single shaming since the start of the pandemic.
With the added pressures of conversations with your family at Christmas, it can feel like the pressure is on to couple up.
However, be careful to do your due diligence by really getting to know someone, and understanding their intentions, before you assume you’re coupled up for the new year.